Showing posts with label break up. Show all posts
Showing posts with label break up. Show all posts
How to Get Over an Ex Boyfriend
Suggestion by: Jessica Highton
Place: New York City, USA
I know exactly what runs through your mind when you've broken up! I've been in the same state as you are currently in and I had done a Google search "How to Get Over an Ex Boyfriend" to reach BlogJeez! Its been over 3 months now and I am perfectly all right and completely over my ex. It required an immense amount of struggle, discipline and will for me to come out of it.
The real turning point in me getting over my ex boyfriend was when I read Azzan's article on BlogJeez about How to Get Over a Break Up. It surely is an expert article and somehow his methods, though slightly unusual, they seem to work! If you are looking at a long-term serious approach on getting over your ex boyfriend, then go ahead and follow Azzan's methods.
If you just want to make yourself feel good for the time being, I just want you to listen to this fun song below. It used to help me lighten up my mood and get over my ex boyfriend whenever I felt low.
The real turning point in me getting over my ex boyfriend was when I read Azzan's article on BlogJeez about How to Get Over a Break Up. It surely is an expert article and somehow his methods, though slightly unusual, they seem to work! If you are looking at a long-term serious approach on getting over your ex boyfriend, then go ahead and follow Azzan's methods.
If you just want to make yourself feel good for the time being, I just want you to listen to this fun song below. It used to help me lighten up my mood and get over my ex boyfriend whenever I felt low.
Everyone might probably be giving you all the expert advice and counseling on how to get over it and forget about your ex-boyfriend. Instead of taking things so seriously, here's a fun guide to flirting called the Fastest Guide to Flirting that you should probably try out than sit in one corner, weep and curse your fate! So, get up girl and get going! Feel free to share your thoughts below if you would like to speak up about your break up or about your ex boyfriend. We would love to hear from you!
The Break Up News
Confession by: Ethan
Place: Baltimore, Maryland, USA
I have decided to break up with my girlfriend Natalie by posting my break up letter here. I don't have the patience to face her anymore.
Dear Natalie,
I am going to cut a long story short. I am not being able to cope up with your ridiculous demands.
I can't keep updating you about every single detail about the venture I am trying to set up. I am trying hard to pacify your outbursts of insecurity, but you don't seem to stop. Vivian is just another partner like others who ends up working with me till late night. It doesn't mean that I am doing her. I can not do you these days because
I am really physically tired and mentally tensed about the whole thing. Its not because I am satisfying Vivian that I have no energy.I have always thought of you as my greatest strength. Unfortunately, you are only becoming my greatest weakness. Coming home to you after a herculean day at work is only demotivating me.
Its in your best interest that you find someone who will live up to your demands. I wish I could because I still love you.
I hope you understand that I am not just reacting all of a sudden. Its been growing within me and finally today I have lost my patience. I have packed all my stuff and am driving away to the studio where I will be staying till I find myself a place.
Your Ex,
Ethan
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Get Over A Break Up
Advice by: Azzan
Place: Tel Aviv, Israel
It is not as difficult to "Get over A Break Up" as we actually make it ourselves. Well, I just know people who went through this and what some of them did or realized in life that helped them get out of it. I just felt that I should put that down here so that it helps you come out of the grief.
It is not as difficult to "Get over A Break Up" as we actually make it ourselves. Well, I just know people who went through this and what some of them did or realized in life that helped them get out of it. I just felt that I should put that down here so that it helps you come out of the grief.
Remember
"More often than usual, it takes not one, but two people to bring down love...It wasn't just you!"
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1. Believe this Fact, trust me its true
"In almost 100% relationships, there always will be at least one extremely intense clash of emotions, desires or words which will bring the relationship to the brink of a break-up. And sometimes these clashes are so bad that its just not worth mending anything again."
Tip: Don't keep lingering around the break-up...
Love yourself & have some self-respect, please!
2. Ask yourself
" Why should he/she be responsible for your happiness & your peace of mind ??? "
I am so dead sure that you compromised on quite a few things earlier. Go ahead & take the step to do those things... Whether you have to be alone or with anyone else, just go ahead do it! You
compromised earlier when you were nurturing the relationship, but now is your chance to treat yourself to some fun...You are "entitled to have fun", isn't it?
Tip: Don't be so harsh with yourself!
3. Moving On...
" Why can't I get him/her off my mind ??? "
You've loved the person so damn much... Are you nuts that you are gonna get him/her off your mind in a flash? Obviously Not! But well, you gotta work towards it... Its tough, believe me... Very Tough, But Possible! Tell your mind you gotta be strong & follow this:
Delete
all his/her contacts including phone nos, email ids, messenger ids...everything.
Pack away
all the memories such as gifts, photographs, momentos, etc. of your ex and dump them somewhere.
Vent it out
When you really feel angry or you have a heavy flow of emotions, just pen it all down on paper, read it, preserve it! You won't write better essays than this ever, believe me.
Tip: When you get disturbed about what your ex must be going through, go play with some pet(animal) or kids or cultivate a plant or nurture anything with love.
4. Exercise
On a more serious note now, listen up here! If you do any form of physical exercise, it really helps to release stress & sadness... What more, you look & feel so much better!! I mean just go for a walk or jog somewhere, pump some iron,dance or just jump about... Just tire yourself completely to burn those calories & those memories!
Tip: Don't be a couch potato, you'll only keep dreaming or
hating life or analyzing something useless!
5. Now Talk to Someone
Once you have slowly started to recover, speak about it to someone. Share the burden of this horrible time with someone close. But don't you dare glorify your sweet times with your ex. Tell your friend/relative what troubled you & what went wrong. In the end, tell them that you are finding it hard, but you are trying to seek your way out.
Tip: The end of a disaster is the beginning of rebuilding...a new lease of life!
Be Positive!
Everyone who kept asking me "How to Get Over A Break Up" actually came and thanked me when they actually felt the difference in their lives. Take care and I hope you get over your break up soon!
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Sister Act
Confession by: Jessica
Place: Auckland, New Zealand
I received an email from my swimming coach's sister that she knows about the two of us.
Lately at work I was tired of scanning my work emails in Outlook Express. I wanted to run through the pile of junk emails accumulated in my inbox. Surprisingly, I stumbled upon a name that suddenly struck a chord!
It was my coach's sister! She's been this cute kid I've never met. I've heard of her a lot and am fond of her. She is like this very practical, very outgoing & very broadminded girl! And yeah, she is growing up to be a doc! Wow..
Coach got speaking to her the other day and poured out our entire love affair to her. Matt, my coach is married but isn't doing great with his wife. He loves his 3 year old though. Anyway, he
had kept it secret from Gina, his sister, for 2 crazy long years living under the same roof. I can't believe siblings can actually keep things so secret especially if they are as close as Matt & Gina. But, Matt did keep things from her.
Gina feels guilty for what Matt & I have done. I am guilty too about it somewhere down there. I know if I hadn't come across Matt ever, he would have a happy family. Gina is taking full control of the situation and is making sure Matt's wife Shawna doesn't have her low patches.
I am impressed with Gina's ability sitting miles away and ensuring that Shawna doesn't go through a depression. She's got plans for Shawna when she comes down in December to spend time with their baby. Its amazing the way the two of them bond, though Matt and Shawna aren't together anymore. I am overwhelmed! But I am feeling really good that there is someone taking care of Shawna, she isn't alone really.
I really wanted to get in touch with the Gina, but not this way where I'd be a supposed vamp who broke her brother's marriage. I mean she'd eventually know that I ain't a vamp really. But I still continue to be fond of her. She's stepped in as a positive force in Shawna's life. All the best to her & a huge "Thank U" if she is reading this.
Its all so damn weird right now. Shawna is gonna be down here. Its like we would die to meet each other if things were good between us. Shawna was my dearest at high school. I honestly never knew that she was Matt's wife. But now its all so awkward.
She is hating it & feeling so uncomfortable getting onto that flight. I am sure she is dying to meet her baby irrespective of all this. I believe its best if we don't see each other... its only going to make her hate me. The whole effort of her coming out of the depression will go waste.
To Matt, "I am taking an off for a month. Have a great time with Ryan, Gina and Shawna. To Gina, "The 4 weeks that she is in Auckland, take care of her and party hard. Have a blast... Go spend on clothing & footwear! Keep me off her mind as much as you can!"
~Good luck Gina!
PS: Shawna, if you reading this, please forgive me...
Seems like A Bollywood Film
Personal Secret by: Karishma
Place: Bangalore, India
Characters
1. Me, Karishma
2. My Ex-Boyfriend, Pranav
3. My Roomie, Tamara
4. Tamara's Boyfriend, Adnan
My ex felt like a loser after having dumped me and then being used & thrown away by my roommate. I felt terrible to see him in that state and had such a flow of emotions through my mind that day. I could hardly get sleep for the next couple of nights after that. Just the thought of what he must have gone through kept playing on my mind continuously.
I sound like an idiot, don't I? But, its hard to see that person in pain whom you've loved so dearly.
He now wanted to come back to me and wanted me to accept him again. I seriously didn't have the heart to go ahead and accept him again. I mean I could do everything to ensure he was okay, but to relate with him again in that manner was close to impossible.
But my dear ex then broke down before me and said how he was losing himself and going mad. He even considered suicide. I am a fool that I am and I gave into that. I melted! My ego told him that "I can't accept you", but the stupid heart inside me said, "Lets give it some time and see how it works out between us." It really gave him a ray of hope to know that I was at least considering him and we could possibly have a future together.
I don't know why I fall so easily into these stupid traps. I started to be all caring and loving one more time without using any specific words of love as such, but just through the way I behaved with him. He felt at ease to know that I was getting back.Life did have to turn ugly one more time. This time I thought he had returned to me finally. I had started making efforts to revive our love. But you are then wondering why am I writing all this about him if I have really started to love him again -- the reason is this:
Pranav: "I don't know if I still feel for Tamara. I feel really jealous when she speaks about her boyfriend. Her thoughts still keep coming to me and keep troubling me. I don't know if its you or its her!"
I let our conversation continue normally and I said good-bye to him for the day. After that, all I could just say was "f*ck off dude", but I said it silently to myself so that he wouldn't hear. I really don't think I am gonna let myself be treated like a tennis ball anymore... I am not his back-up plan or a second option. I really don't wanna melt yet another time again in front of his "distressed image". Dealing with such issues is what psychiatrists or rehabs do, not me for sure!
A Lesson for Women & Another for both Sexes
Advice by: Natalie
Place: Birmingham, UK
Lesson 1: For women. If you want him
If you give a man everything he wants very easily, you can be almost sure that he'll move on to another woman if he gets his chance. Men want excitement, men want sex, men want love without a commitment and men want all that what is fun. If you women spill all the fun in a jiffy, then he's gone baby gone!
You need to make him wait. You need to get what you want out of him every time you give him something. This may seem cheap because we are talking of "love", not "trade". But try to understand that a man moves to other women because its evolutionary, similarly, a woman needs to practise such tactics with full consciousness to keep her man with her.
Take things slow, have fun. Show the guy that you really can be fun to be with and he must long for your company. Tease him a little by making him wait for the next dose of excitement. Keep this going as long as you can; give & take, give & take, give & take. The guy will be madly yours! Trust me, just take this as a scripture from your Holy Book and practise it:
"Your man will be yours and only yours if you give him what he desires only in parts and not all at once. Keep him excited and each time you do that, you can demand what you desire"
Lesson 2: For both sexes in the age group of 18-25.Quite often you may come across a situation where you are going through a rough patch in your relationship and at the same time you have work/academic/domestic/some other commitments.
These are real difficult times when you have to fulfill your commitments with sincerity and at the same time ignore the rocky moments of your love life. Well, its at these moments that you have to make your decision about whats more important. Is it possible to put your commitment off for a while? Can you afford to lose what you may lose if you don't adhere to your commitment? That's what you gotta answer.
On the other hand, you need to gauge how rocky and unstable your relationship is at that moment. If you feel that its an SOS situation for your relationship, then you need to pay more attention to it. If its not really SOS, let time pass and by then things get cooler and easier to sort out.
Most often, there isn't an SOS situation in our relationships. Its work/academic/other life that needs your attention more. You can usually mend your relationships even if its a little delayed, but when time flies away for your other commitments, its usually irreparable.
So you really need to keep this last paragraph in mind whenever you encounter trouble in this form. You need to separate your love life from your other commitments. You really have to do it. You need to give your other commitments more importance and ensure that you see them through right till the end. If you are settled with work, there is a calmer mind that can sort out stupid love life issues more easily.
Trust me, just take this as a scripture from your Holy Book and practise it:
"Its really not worth blowing up your work/academics/other life commitments because they don't come back. Love can wait for a while and still be yours again."
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Messy Love
Story By: Iwan
Place: Groningen, Netherlands
I don’t know how to start and what to write. This probably is not that interesting for the reader the way I am writing, or is it? For me, its just that I am put in a situation where I cannot speak about it to anyone; one because I am under pressure to keep it secret, two because I am an introvert & three because I love her and can’t portray her in bad light to anyone.
I think I fell in love with her at the first sight when the sunlight fell on her face in a chemistry class. She looked so angelic & heavenly at that moment… fair, short, beautifully tied hair with curls around her face, her pink halterneck that she wore and her aloneness near the window. She listened peacefully & made notes of what the bald guy (the professor) was saying and at the same time, effortlessly distracted me with this image of herself.
It used to be weekends when I used to catch a glimpse of her and then long for the next weekend to arrive to see her again. I could hardly go up to her & speak anything… But one day I ran down the stairs when the class got over and stood next to her bike. She noticed me as she walked towards her bike, then ignored my presence, then looked down & smiled. I came up with the most stupid clichéd reason to speak to her… “Umm, Can I have your book? I’ve missed a class!” She knew what I was doing, but she smiled and gave it to me. I couldn’t get my breath back for a moment when that happened & before that I was thinking that I will make her go weak in her knees… Haha..
Well I just wanna say that it really started off as a very cute love-story, which we all felt would last forever. I met her every weekend after that in the same parking lot, kept speaking for hours on end, ignorant about the rush in people’s lives around us. Life was good then! I felt I was in heaven! What adrenalin rush I must say; I used to ride back home so fast after spending time with her & sing at the top of my voice. The streets found me crazy, but I hardly bothered!
About three months down the line, our little stupid talks & blushing here and there bloomed into a relationship of commitment & love. Wow! What a time that was… People who’ve been in love know what I am talking about. Well it hardly just lasted a day and then she broke out to me & said, “You know what, I already have a boyfriend. I am going through a rough patch with him and he would go mad if he came to know about us... This is not going to last for long." I was dumb
at that moment, lost my words. Anger gripping me like it never before but yet my feelings for her held me back from doing something crazy. I tried explaining to her how we could find a way, but she kept saying what a bully her boyfriend was, the way he abused her physically and how he would go wild. No, she didn’t agree & told me its over!Whatever, I was mind-f**ked for that moment and that entire day. I was home and I was wetting my pillow with my tears. Felt like crap being this athlete and sobbing in my room. But I really couldn’t control. It was so strong! All of a sudden if it just withers away this way, it breaks your heart however macho you are.
That day I could hardly look into my books and get focused. Here I had a heart-break and there my chemistry tests kept the pressure on me to study. I spoke to my friend Kelvin and he was kind enough to invite me to his place and talk about it and make me study. I loved her so much that time; I couldn’t bear the thought of the pain that she was probably going through. I picked up the phone to call her and it took her just two rings to answer my call. It was as if she was waiting to hear from me. We spoke & melted and decided to be brave to call it Love!
Well, we finally set out in the world of dreams and intoxicating love. Waiting to hear each others voices, seeing each other over the weekends and saying mushy things to each other, we did all of that and could hardly resist blowing up hours doing it. I did everything in life as if she was the reason for it. I mean I worked hard at college, I was this nice guy to everyone which was pretty different from my earlier version, I spoke well to people around and what not. She made me be a nice guy without even saying anything. I just wanted to be nice because of her. The little angel in her had driven me so crazy, I was as nice as being gay and I can’t believe that today.
As time passed, we got to know from some friends that her ex hated the idea of Madeleine leaving him for me. Even meeting her o’er a cup of coffee at times seemed difficult because her ex was some kinda gangsta. So things had to mellow down and our loud carefree behaviour had to be curbed. I hated it totally. I mean loving my girl but not being able to do any fun stuff with her around the city was killing me inside.
So life moved on and we kept meeting through the week at my place where the atmosphere was very relaxed and we had our privacy. We spent hours gazing at each other, feeling each other and getting close. We had privacy to get naughty every now and then.
I think almost 3 years passed this way and then came the time for her to prepare herself for her education abroad. We obviously didn’t want it that way, living away, but it was a great tool for keeping away her from her ex. I can't even explain the fear we've lived in because of him at times. So we both worked hard to get her to study well and score high in those exams. We often sat together in front of my computer solving mathematics, analyzing English comprehensions, cracking problems on logical reasoning and scripting perfect essays. Well, she did a great job at it herself and got an amazing score to move to the shores of America to fulfill her career dreams. I danced in the dark in my room all alone that night when she called me to inform me that she had a call from one of the coolest universities, which was in Los Angeles.
Time came and she flew away from me. I was too strong to drop a tear from my eye because I knew she was doing it for not just herself, but for our future which we dreamed of living in California. I was so proud of her. My little doll though couldn’t stop tears rolling down her cheeks and trust me; a man hates to see his sweetheart weep! She went; she went very far away from me. I am not talking about miles here; I am talking of much more.
I spoke to her over the internet when she reached there. It had been like two full weeks that I had seen her. Again, she missed me, she missed home and she broke down on her webcam. I would usually hold her in my arms when I saw her this way, but this time I couldn’t. I felt so helpless. She had lost her mother when she was eight and had a dad who hardly cared. She lived life that way till she grew sixteen, after which she found a home in her grandparents’ house and a guy like me who loved her more than she ever wanted. Her loneliness hit her academics hard and she kept losing herself.
I believe the first term had got over that time and she performed just about average. In just four months, she flew back to meet all of us and I can’t tell you how happy she was. It all pumped a new life into her. But hardly was she with us when we realized she had to go back and she cried this time, but very mildly, very controlled. And what a kiss she gave me before she left, I am not being poetic here, but the sensation lasted for a couple of days! Wow!
She reached there and I spoke to her using our microphones and webcams. She seemed much better than always and she smiled. It was so satisfying and relieving seeing her this way. I couldn’t thank the almighty more than what I did that day. Things on her academic front didn’t improve like drastically or anything, but yeah they were getting better.
I knew that she would now pick up in the race and make us all proud one more time. I got back my peace of mind and could now peacefully work with my new job. I started to get busy and slowly reduced my excess talking hours with her because I knew she was much better and doing well.
And now comes the whole f**king reason about why I am writing this today. She started behaving very differently with me. She didn’t have the same love or warmth in her voice, she lied to me on a couple of occasions, and she spoke things incompletely as if to hide them from me and almost drifted apart. I am not dumb I know to not understand what was probably going on. In fact, I had known her so closely that she could hardly hide her behaviour from me.
Yeah, you guessed it right! There was another guy Jude in the equation. But you know what, I loved her way too much to get wild at her or yell at her. And you might think I am mad, but I was ready to let her go with that guy if she found herself happier there…that’s how much I’ve loved her.
She spoke to me a few days down the line after I had realized what had happened. I did not react at all and smiled at what had happened. She felt a little guilty about it and spoke to me. I wrote her an email saying that it was life in general that takes us through these roads & turns, which at times are unwanted. But the moment one realizes that one has taken a turn not ought to be taken, one needs to drive one's vehicle back and get back on track.
The email didn’t really work and I think things had gone way far ahead. I was late… Everything had changed so much within a month. She was in love once again, this time it was Jude. Life can really play sick jokes on you and get away with it! Its not like I didn’t love her after this. I still did love her with all my heart. I knew she was put in a situation that way and fell prey to it. She discussed her new boyfriend with me and I listened. She told me how they spent time and how she loved him. She told me how she missed him, she told me how he loved seeing her face on the internet, she told me how they spoke during the wee hours at night, and she told me how they were alone at home and… She told me all of it. I gave her a chance to let out everything out of her system to give herself mental peace. She felt ashamed to talk to anyone else about it, so she spoke to me. Weird, right? But I made her speak to me because she would go mad not talking to anyone and I couldn’t see that.
I talked to her and I realized that she indeed had fallen in love with Jude. I had never seen her so happy before that way when she went to University. I really could let her go with that guy if she was this happy. But I don’t know which peace of lightning struck that man and he realized after a month and a half that its “wrong”. So he had all his time with her and now he wasn’t ready to commit. I don’t have words to express for such a soul really. He too was in a relationship when all this happened between him and her.
Through this period of healing her through this tragedy, she told me more than thrice I guess to take her back. She said she wanted to be with me. I was ready and I was large-hearted. But then, just a couple of days later, she fell back for that guy again. They were so strongly attached that they could hardly be without each other. She still spoke to him the same way and they still loved each other. If she had decided to get back to me, why did she again go back? That’s the time I couldn’t take it anymore… even if I want to today, I cannot find my heart that loves her again in the same way.
Its to learn from this: Nothing can be permanent, eventhough it’s the strongest. Accept it and move on… Move on to explore the journey of life with a smile and a strong heart!
"I’m sorry baby, I couldn’t love you anymore…"
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